There is willing to give up something, and then there is being forced to give up something. They should not mix.

[ He understands to a point, but his life wasn't like Shen Wei's. He had to become small and turn in his desires less they were used against him, and he didn't succeed as he had hoped. He was going to try to pull from that, but it would be work, and he will fall into his old ways. Ye Zun hoped his brother will forgive him those failings. ]

Did you ever wonder what it would have been like if we never had parted?